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And today's Power quote is success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. And that comes from Winston Churchill. So if you will, please help me welcome the beautiful Ms. Kristen Kurtz.
Kristen is an author, a life coach, a spiritual midwife, and the founder of New Wings Coaching. She's the host of Hope Unlocked podcast and she also works with women leaders, entrepreneurs, ministry builders at pivotal moments, helping them unlock identity, activate their voice and make bold, faith aligned decisions that accelerate clarity, confidence and impact. Hello, Kristen. Hello again, Kristin.
[00:02:50] Speaker B: Yes, hello. So good to be here.
[00:02:53] Speaker A: Yes, I thank you so much. So happy, so happy to have you. So you know what, let's just dive right in.
[00:02:59] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:00] Speaker A: Tell us your journey. How did you get here? You know, tell us about, you know, the, the resilience, the obedience. I know we don't have a lot, you know, all day, but tell us how you got here to this point where you help other women unlock their voice and propel them into their destiny through obedience.
[00:03:17] Speaker B: Yes. Well, it's been, it's been a journey. I, I still say that. I say it's. It's a wild adventure. It's a, it's quite the journey.
Um, I, you know, grew up in, In a family that was very unstable. A lot of moving, a lot of trauma, a lot of abuse, verbal, a lot of cap. Capping on my voice. Right. So my voice was surprised at a very young age with words from people, whether it was in school, family word, curses. Absolutely. And so I'm going to kind of encapsulate very. In a short period.
By the time I was a teenager, like, I didn't know who I was. I had an identity crisis, which is what I believe our world.
Yes, is definitely experiencing in this era.
I just, I didn't know who I was. I. I didn't want to. I didn't want to be alive, but I didn't, like, try to take my life. I just did very reckless things when it came to wanting to get numbed out by drugs and alcohol. And, you know, just imagine a very reckless teenager. Right. The. The worst teenager that you could ever have, like, if you're a parent. That was me.
And so I ended up getting involved with my husband. We were 18 and we were reckless together, so it was like double reckless. And ended up getting married at 24.
And during that time, just hit some rock bottoms, ended up in church where I thought I would never end up.
Got radically delivered from alcohol, drugs, two packs a day, and my life. I thought it was going to be like a Cinderella life. I don't know why I thought that would be. I thought the God that I hated and now that I loved would, you know, now he loves me because I didn't think he loved me. Now that he loves me and I'm accepted, my life is going to be perfect. And it really didn't start out that way. Honestly, it was very challenging having two miscarriages really quickly after getting saved, ending up in the book of Job and seeing his journey.
And it fired me up, actually, because I was like, if that guy can go through that, I can go through anything too. And I think one of the words that I've heard a lot of people speak over me in a positive way is that you're really tenacious, like you're not one who gives up. And it's, it's very true. I.
I know what's at stake if I give up and I Love that quote about failure from Winston Churchill. Because maybe we can speak on, you know, what might look like failure on paper actually isn't.
[00:06:04] Speaker A: Right. Right. That. That can take a lot of wings because it's almost like when people say, you're successful.
Okay, to whose measuring stick? Right? To whose measuring stick am I successful? Successful to yours, to mine.
The same thing with failure. You know, one thing that my father told me some years back, that stuck with me and, and I've been repeating that because it's really been on my heart. I was talking about, you know, from the time I started my first business, you know, to selling, to closing, you know, all those different elements that come with it. And, you know, I was like, you know, sometimes I start stuff and I just feel like, you know, I failed at it and then I, you know, start something else. And, and that may work out for a little bit. And then, you know, it's like almost like premature death, you know, and it's like it again, you know, you're either one side versus the other. And I'll never forget, he told me, he said, well, Cindy, he said, you only fail when you start trying.
He said, you only fail when you stop trying. He said, the fact that you keep trying, he said, you're going to be successful, you're going to make it, because even if by default because you keep trying, you're going to succeed. And I never forgot that, you know, with all the nuances of the day, all the, the nuances of life, of balancing things or trying to at least, I never forgot that, you know, failure to whose measuring stick? To whose standard?
[00:07:31] Speaker B: Right, right. And if you look at, if you go read the Bible and you look at how many people in the Bible would probably be failures in the world. Standard, right?
Noah, he's my favorite. I love Noah. And that's where I say, like the ministry business builders, Ministry builders, I love, I love coming alongside. I call them the Noah builders because they're the ones that get like a crazy vision from the Lord and they're like, sign me up. Obedience, like I'm, I'm there. Right?
But then they're willing to do the long suffering journey. They're willing to do the patience journey, even though it's really hard. And I'm a Noah builder. I mean, I'm, I could talk about some of the things that, you know, I walk through in my own business, in life, but I think I shared this with you last week when we were just chatting.
I, I got this fun vision of Noah and his wife and I just had this imagine. It was almost like a movie, right? And it was like Noah sat down with his wife, let's just say it, at 20 years in, and she's like, honey, there's still no rain. It's been 20 years.
You're such a failure.
Like, who do you think you are?
And he just responds, but God said, period, period, period. And then it's like 40 years in, honey, I, I think we need to find like a mental institution for you.
And he's like, but God said, and this is just what I imagine, you know, And I, I know that even for my own walk I've had, you know, people are like, what are you doing?
Like, what's your. But what if. What is like, like what. I call it the. But what if people, like, they're well meaning and they might be your friends, they might be your family, but they don't. They don't. They don't understand the brevity of your. Yes. And they don't understand what you saw with the Lord and what he said to you.
Yes.
[00:09:46] Speaker A: Because, you know, and it's funny, I just want to interject just a little bit here.
I've been, you know, hearing even lately. You know, sometimes your obedience to God makes you look crazy or sometimes, you know, because people don't understand.
[00:10:02] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:10:02] Speaker A: But there. I do believe there comes a time in your walk with Christ that it's almost like it's just me and you.
Yes, there are other outside external people, but it's me and you. This conversation that you're having, it's between me and you. This is what you require of me at this time.
[00:10:26] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:10:27] Speaker A: Whether the externals understand or agree or not, it's me and you. And I do believe there's a time. And my mind is going back to when we're talking about success and failure. When I mentioned about the measuring stick. I'll never forget during a isolation boot camp time, spiritual boot camp time, you know, God was giving me my new marching orders. And I'll never forget him telling me that he was requiring a different level of trust from me.
And, And I'm sitting like, lord, you know I trust you. You know, I mean, I trust you. I'm.
I trust you. But a small still voice said, but to whose standard?
Because his ways and thoughts are higher than ours. And even though a lot of times we feel like we're giving our best, we're giving our all, because he created us, he knows that when we say, okay, my cup's full, I can't take Any more. He knows that there's some more to that cup.
Yes, we can. Our capacity can be stretched. He knows what we can handle. He knows how he created us, where we're going, even though we don't quite know all the pieces.
[00:11:42] Speaker B: Right?
[00:11:43] Speaker A: So when he's requiring different levels or like you said about the Cinderella story, you know, you were thinking that once. And a lot of people, unfortunately, they think that whenever, you know, they accept Christ into their lives, they think everything's going. And I wish I could tell them that everything's going to work out perfect, it will work out in your favor. It just may not be the way you thought it would be.
[00:12:06] Speaker B: Right.
[00:12:06] Speaker A: Because his ways and thoughts are higher than ours and his requirement of our. Yes, and our obedience. A lot of times we can't explain.
No, we just follow the instructions exactly.
[00:12:21] Speaker B: And then what does that look like?
[00:12:22] Speaker A: What is, what does that look like?
Tell me. Like, for the leaders that you deal with, I mean, their voices, sometimes you feel stifled. Why do you think many leaders silence themselves?
[00:12:34] Speaker B: Well, I want to just like, share, you know, one of my favorite verses too, before I get into that. It's Proverbs 3, 5, 6. It's trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
[00:12:46] Speaker A: So in all thy ways acknowledge him. And he would direct that.
[00:12:51] Speaker B: Right. So it is going to look different.
Leaders and voices. I truly believe there's a big part, I mean, fear is a big part of it.
People pleasing, perfectionism, past, you know, trauma. Maybe somebody has said, like, words over you that stifled your voice. And there is like, what I experienced, it felt like a literal chokehold.
Like, there was times I would try to, like, say something.
And I attribute it to, you know, Moses in the Bible, he was called, like, God called him to deliver and help set free the Israelites out of Egypt. And he's like, I always get pictures of, like, the conversations.
[00:13:44] Speaker A: He's like, oh, I, I, I relate a lot to Moses and Abraham.
[00:13:50] Speaker B: You know who you're talking? Like, he's probably like, do you, do you know who you're talking to? Like, do you actually know me? And like, how I am not eloquent of speech? And God's like, yeah, I created you and I created your voice.
So, you know, I, I, I think there's just pressure, there's comparison.
There's just so many things out there that I don't know if I shared this with you and, and some of you may not love what I'm going to say about this here, but I Within the last few months, I just kept seeing all these women, and we were talking about health before we, you know, hit record.
There's so many women that are like, word.
Verbally constipated, and they have so many words in them.
I talk to a lot of women, I'll immediately be like, whoa, you have a book in you. Like, you're pregnant with a book baby. But they're like, oh, no, I'm not an author. It's just this like, oh, no. Oh, no, I couldn't do that. Oh, no, I couldn't do that. I. There's no way I could do that. And it's a big part of it. I do believe the enemy is a punk. First of all, you know you're going to get those lies of like, oh, you couldn't do that. You don't know what you're doing. You're not an author. You're not a speaker. It's the knots. It's the knots that come in first, and we have to untie those knots and get to a place of again. Lord, what is my identity? Like, what is the.
The thing that is. Is needing to be released through me.
For me personally, like, the very thing that I'm called to do now requires my voice all day long. Having a podcast, working with clients, and I love connecting with people.
That requires my voice. I can't just be like this.
I could
[00:15:52] Speaker A: be like, sometimes from talking so much. It's of course.
[00:15:57] Speaker B: Right. But, you know, I look back, even in school, it's like I got in trouble all the time for talking and connecting with people and. But that was the very thing I was to go to college for, was to talk college. You know, I. I'm in the midst of getting my degree in speaking. He's stretching me big time. Like, me having a podcast.
Even me, I was like, lord, do you. Do. You know.
And that's where kind of going back to the success, failure thing.
Success is obedience. You. You just. You say, yes. You keep doing the thing. You keep doing the thing, keep planting the seeds.
And for many of us who are doing the crazy things, there's a process behind it that is uncomfortable A lot of times.
There's a refinement that's fiery and very uncomfortable at times. There's.
There's just so much to it. But kind of going back to what I said about the. But what if people.
That's where we really need to protect the seed.
Protect. You know, if you get pregnant, sometimes people wait like 12 weeks before they announce that they're pregnant. You know, every couple has that decision if they want to do that or not. But there is wisdom.
Especially like I didn't tell anybody that I was starting a pot. I had a couple, we had a few, like, close. I called them the people that can come into the birthing suite with you.
But other than that, like, it was surprise because I feel like there's wisdom, especially if you're walking into something that's very stretchy and then if you tell people prematurely about what you're doing and you're already in this like, place of, you know, it could, it can I say, like, it could. You could self abort potentially.
[00:18:00] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. You know, so out of the things that you mentioned about, I guess pulling that voice out and why they silence themselves, I didn't hear you mention fear.
Fear would, yeah, would topple all of those. Those are like the little raindrops of fear.
How would you, how would you address that? How would you address fear? The fear factor, which a lot of those that I deal with, you know, it starts with fear. And again, those word curses that they don't even know what to call them. It's just what somebody said at some point and they never got past it. I don't like to say got over it because sometimes you don't get over things. You just grow past it or you heal past it, you know, and then sometimes you have to talk yourself off the ledge because even at your pivotal moment of strength, you hear that little voice coming back telling you what you can't do, you know, and you have to fight that voice, you know, just like, you know, scripture says about casting down every imagination and thought basically contrary to, you know, who God says you are to the will of God. So I mean, how do you address that fear?
That, that fear factor is huge. That's huge.
[00:19:12] Speaker B: I mean, I still have fear when I do things and there's healthy fear, but then there's the fear that keeps you from walking out your destiny.
Right.
I think of somebody recently, this person I know, he's. He's been in ministry for 50 years and is called to be like a speaker.
And it actually was something that, that set me free because he said he still has fear every time. Like he has this measure of fear that, that comes on him before he goes and steps out on a stage once he starts talking, gone.
So honestly, like, I just, if I take my, my own situation of starting the podcast, oh my gosh, like, I felt like I was on the top. I don't, like, I have like A fear of falling. I don't have necessarily a fear of heights, but that it was almost like I was at the top of this huge diving board, like looking down at a pool and just knowing, okay, he called me to this.
I need to jump.
And every time, every time I hit record, do I. Do I have fear? Not. Not like I did then. It's just, it's this healthy level of like, I'm doing this, like, to like obedient. He's called me to this because I know, like, what's on the other side of helping somebody get out there and share their story and having somebody listen to it. So there's like this healthy level of fear. And as I jump more and jump more and jump more, it's like, it's. It's just this practice of pushing through and will.
Can we ever be completely like.
Like without it? I don't. I don't know. I don't know. For me, personally, like, it says, like, do not fear, like what, 365 times in the Bible, which is the equivalent of how many days a year we have.
I don't know personally, like, there's some things, I've literally been delivered of fear. And then there's some other things that there's a process to it. But truly, it's like I'm getting this picture of Indiana Jones, you know, in the, in the movie, if you guys remember Indiana Jones back from the. I think it was the 80s or something.
There was this moment where he needed to get over this chasm to the other side or he was just gonna, like, he, he had a choice. He could turn around and run back or he could take a step and not he. He didn't know that when he took the step, these little stepping stones would appear so he could get to the other side. And, and I feel like if, if some of you could just kind of get that picture in your mind if you're called to take a step out, like, he will give you that foothold. This the next step. He'll give you the.
Maybe the people that are kind of like your destiny helpers, the people that are going to encourage you on this walk. That looks crazy.
You know what I'm saying?
[00:22:29] Speaker A: Sometimes a lot of times the problem that, that people encounter is that they're trying to do everything alone.
The second problem is that, okay. And I always call the good Lord our destiny driver because he created it like you told Jeremiah, you know, with him being the destiny driver. And again, I'm getting that picture again of somebody Giving you a gift.
Like they'll give you something and you take it. Like a dog takes a bone and runs off and hides it or he'll eat it. And, and you may not see that, that dog again. And I'm not saying that we're animals, but just as an analogy, you may not see that dog again until he wants another bone.
So the fact that all good and perfect gifts come from above and he's given us these ideas, he's given us these visions, you know, you have to continuously check in when you mention about this, you know he'll give you that foothold. Yes.
But you know he's going to give you enough to get through that first step.
[00:23:31] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:32] Speaker A: You have to have a relationship with him to come back and get your next marching orders, your next step, the next principle, the next, you know, you need the next. So when you're trying to do it alone, be it in the physical realm of the spiritual realm, I'll just put it out there. When you're trying to do it alone, you're going to fail because you don't have all of your instructions. You got, I would say plan A. And you ran off with it. You did. Like the dog, you ran off with the bone. You, you didn't even acknowledge the fact. It's like, oh my goodness, where did I get that idea from? You're running around prematurely without, without all the facts. Yeah. You know, with all, without all of your instructions.
So you have to go back and get the next step. You have to have that relationship so that you have a continual voice, continual instructions as to what to do next. I really do believe that helps with that fear factor is having the destiny helper and the destiny driver.
[00:24:39] Speaker B: That's good.
[00:24:39] Speaker A: You have to have all of that. It's not a one sided package.
Is a package that you have to align with, not that you create as you go along. You're going to fail, you're going to hit plateaus, you're going to run out of ideas. Because just as the dog did, you got what you wanted for that moment. An answer prayer. You got a dog bone, you got a prize, you got a gift. And you never went back to the giver. Some people get so in love with the gift that they forget the giver of the gift, you know, and, and I do believe there are times where the good Lord is really trying to get our attention in different elements. He's there all the time.
But because we're so busy, busy, busy about our business and not about his, we miss it.
And then you wonder why again. You hit a plateau. You wonder why you've got a foggy brain. You can't even function past your first step or, you know, I had the idea for the book and I just lost it. Yeah. You didn't involve all of the elements and all of the pieces. So with that being said, I think of realignment.
[00:25:52] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:25:53] Speaker A: I think of realignment, I think of restructuring, I think of redevelopment. Give me three reads. Give me three of your reads. What comes to mind? Three. Three of your reads.
[00:26:05] Speaker B: Yeah.
Well, it starts with re, but restoration, which.
[00:26:09] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:26:10] Speaker B: Starts with rest.
The rest of it.
[00:26:12] Speaker A: Yes.
Something. Yes.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: The recalibration.
[00:26:18] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:26:19] Speaker B: And the call in the middle of that.
And then, let's see, even recycling.
[00:26:26] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:26:27] Speaker B: Right. Try it again.
[00:26:29] Speaker A: Yes. Repurpose.
[00:26:31] Speaker B: Right. Repurpose.
[00:26:32] Speaker A: Repurpose.
[00:26:33] Speaker B: There's so many Reeves out there.
[00:26:35] Speaker A: Yeah. Because when you mentioned the refiners furnace. But you, you, you know, you trailed it a little light because like I said. Yeah. We don't like to talk about the.
[00:26:43] Speaker B: That we could go there on another episode.
[00:26:46] Speaker A: Listen. Another whole day.
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Waiting is the hard part.
And you have to have faith for that.
You have to have a lot of faith to remember and recall what he said to you when he originally gave you that idea.
When he originally released that vision to you. What did he originally say? Even though right now it's not looking like what he said it was going to look like. It's not looking like what you showed me. It's not looking like what you. What I heard. I know. I heard you. I know what you said.
That's that time where you have to sit still in that weight and don't waste your weight.
[00:28:55] Speaker B: Yep. There it is.
And isn't it interesting, even as you're saying that one of the chapters in my book is weight training. W a I t training.
And when you said it, I was like, wow.
Because sometimes people, when I say wait, they think it's the W e I g h t. Like your actual. The numbers on the scale.
[00:29:19] Speaker A: W a I t, period.
[00:29:20] Speaker B: Right. So think. Think of this as women.
I think two of the hardest things in. In. If you look at maybe, like, what would you find on a magazine or things that are constantly talked about your weight, like you're the number on the scale.
It throws people off all the time. You go to the doctor and they're like, you're obese, but yet you're actually not. Okay.
[00:29:46] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. So you just get off the elevator. Listen, you just get off the elevator. You're walking in there, they're throwing you on the scale and didn't want to do your blood pressure.
[00:29:55] Speaker B: Right.
[00:29:56] Speaker A: Then you got me upset talking about the weight, and now you want my blood.
[00:29:59] Speaker B: Right.
[00:29:59] Speaker A: Of course.
[00:30:00] Speaker B: It's up to.
So you've got the weight and the weight. And I. I honestly think these are areas that you can get stuck in this. You know, you need freedom in those areas for some people. Right. It's. It's getting free of the.
The timelines and being able to have that patience. I think, honestly, like, patience is probably one of the hardest processes that I've had to walk through. I remember my mom, at one point, she was like, how are you so patient? I'm like, well, I've been in training.
You've had moments to practice.
[00:30:40] Speaker A: Listen, I will not ask God to give me patience ever again. In my younger years on this, I know when I didn't have that sense, and it's like, oh, you don't have. That's. Oh, God, give me patience. Give me patience. I remember opening my first door. Oh, my dear God. I think that was the training ground.
That was the training ground. And I learned from the. And that was many, many years ago. So I'm that person now. They say, oh, God, you are just so patient. You are just so. It's like, you have no idea.
You. I don't like the word wait, but that goes hand in hand with it.
[00:31:12] Speaker B: I.
[00:31:14] Speaker A: You have no Idea. No, I don't pray for patience anymore. I endure whatever it is which is trample through it, push through it. But to pray for that, to ask for that, to seek after that. No. That first training ground taught me a lesson, even about my words.
They are powerful. But then even my layman words, you have to watch.
[00:31:39] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:31:40] Speaker A: So, you know, defeating that level of fear starts right here.
That starts there. And then secondly there.
[00:31:48] Speaker B: Yes, yes, it starts there.
[00:31:50] Speaker A: Because sometimes in the heat, and I think you may be able to relate to this, sometimes in the heat of aggravation. I don't want to say anger. In the heat of something aggravating you, sometimes you will catch yourself saying, oh, my God. It always happens. Oh, this.
You have to watch your words.
[00:32:07] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:32:07] Speaker A: You have to watch your words and all of those. Read the realign. You have to, you know, take that process, whatever that process is, for your stage of life, for your walk in life, endure your process and don't waste your weight.
[00:32:25] Speaker B: Yeah, I think that's, you know, going back to words, talking, you know, speaking and the words and, you know, I have to mind my mouth all the time.
The mind mirror mouth. There you go.
[00:32:36] Speaker A: Exactly.
[00:32:38] Speaker B: It's right here. It's right here.
Right above your shoulders.
[00:32:42] Speaker A: There you go.
A lot goes on right there. A whole lot goes on. It can help or hinder you. You know, I tell my clients that a lot of times, it's like, you know, they want to talk about business. They want to talk about, you know, how to move, move, move, move, move and make more, make more, make more and do more and how to grow it. Okay. Well, if you've hit a stumbling block.
[00:33:02] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:33:03] Speaker A: It started in your mind.
So now we've got to recalibrate your mindset. We've got to recalibrate your thought process. We've got to work there first.
Because if you're the owner or the proprietor or the managing partner, you are the decision maker. So it appears.
But when you're aligned, you know who the decision maker is. You're just the vessel, you're just the face.
[00:33:28] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:33:30] Speaker A: But if you don't align, then you're out there like that puppy. You got your prize, your bone. You're running, and now you've eaten your bone, you've thrown it away, you've lost your bone, and you have no direction.
[00:33:44] Speaker B: Yeah.
So good. I. I'm seeing, like, you know how if you go to a. I don't know, a concert or anywhere where there's maybe somebody who's, like, famous, they've Got security. And they have those little things in their ear that's telling them.
And it's like, we need to constantly. Like I like to say, I think there was if you know who. Like Lisa Terker says I wrote. Wrote a book from her many, many, many years ago, and she said word before world. And to have these, like, get in the word before your world starts in the morning, and that's like having your. Your tuned.
[00:34:22] Speaker A: Quiet time.
[00:34:23] Speaker B: Yeah, quiet time. But then also, like, it. It trains you. And then, you know, like, as you're walking this journey out, you're not even. Like, it's. It's just happening all day. Like, it just is happening. And you may not be sitting in your closet, but you're out driving or out in nature. And he's speaking to you through.
[00:34:47] Speaker A: That's why I.
[00:34:48] Speaker B: So many different ways.
[00:34:50] Speaker A: That's why I said relationship. Because in relationships, we have conversations.
[00:34:55] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:34:55] Speaker A: We have dialogue.
[00:34:57] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:34:57] Speaker A: You know, we have dialogue. And that's the thing that I love most about our father, is that though he's high and looks low, he sees. He knows all these things that we're dealing with, even our thoughts and words, before they come out of our mouth. That's power, you know? But the fact that he wants that intimacy with us through relationship where we don't just take our gift and run with it and think we can balance it and move it on our own. You know, somebody asked me not too long ago what would be my top way for someone to fund a new business?
And I told them, alignment.
Alignment. Align with the destiny driver who originally gave you that plan. Because if he gave you that vision, there's also provision for it. And sometimes I have even been guilty of that in the past. It's like, okay, God gave me the vision. I'm working on it. Let's work it. Work it, work it. We've got it. It looks good. Now let's do the marketing. Let's do yada, yada, yada.
And then it's like, okay, where am I gonna get the money from? I mean, duh. Why.
Why would I even. You see, it's so easy to slip into that. But if he gave it to you, he doesn't half do anything.
We make it appear that he's half done something because we didn't go back and get the rest of the blueprint.
We're operating off a corner, a. A torn corner of the page, a piece of a scroll.
[00:36:28] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:36:29] Speaker A: Not the complete scroll.
So that relationship, like you just said, all day long, you know, you're he's speaking, but you have to be quiet and listen. You can't have chaos and messy, messy boots going on. You can't do all of that. You've gotta have. That's what we have to. Two ears and one mouth for a reason. He was very intentional so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.
He was very intentional.
[00:36:56] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:36:56] Speaker A: So sometimes after you're finished venting and talking about all the things that he already knows that's going on in your life. I tell people all the time, you have to shut your mouth so you can listen.
[00:37:07] Speaker B: Yes. You know, you'll, you'll like this acronym. It's. It's actually weight.
Why am I talking?
[00:37:17] Speaker A: Wow.
Wow, that's good. Wow. Yeah, that's good. I'll have to take that.
[00:37:25] Speaker B: It allows. And I use, I use that even when, you know, working with clients too. Because we're really listening and I know you do this too. Yeah, we're really listen. We have to listen for those gold nuggets that people are speaking and.
[00:37:37] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:37:38] Speaker B: And really just even, you know, to the listeners. Like if you're at the grocery store, like, I don't know, people just come up to me and tell me their whole life story and I want to be like intently listening so that when you are listening, maybe you're asking them a question because you actually heard something that they said rather than you kind of wanting to run in and interject with your thought. And I think that we all as like we. Oh, I, at least for me, I'm always thinking, I've got all these thoughts and I've got words that are like in the hopper, ready to share. Right. And I have to hold them back sometimes because.
[00:38:16] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:38:17] Speaker B: Maybe it's not about me at that moment. It's about, it's fully about the other person you're talking to. And I believe, you know, the Lord wants to do that with us too when we just, just He's. He's doing what we have an opportunity to do with people as well, right?
[00:38:39] Speaker A: Yeah. This is good. This is so good. I'm so super excited. So this has been like very relaxing, like the sweet spot, you know, I just. This has been very relaxing. What would be your just brief.
What is something you would tell your 21 year old self looking back?
[00:39:02] Speaker B: Yeah, there's more.
Keep going.
[00:39:07] Speaker A: There you go.
[00:39:08] Speaker B: I mean, simple. If I were to rename my business, it would be Keep Going Coaching.
Just keep going.
At that point, I, I didn't have, I didn't. I mean, I have always had this tenacious fire in me, but it was like, there's more on the horizon. And even, even as a 48 year old, I. I know he's still speaking that over me. Like, there's more. Keep going.
It's timeless. It's like it's. It's for the ages. All the ages.
[00:39:41] Speaker A: Yes. Yes. Timeless. Absolutely. Where can people find you? How do they find you? They want to keep in.
[00:39:49] Speaker B: We can go toNew Wings coaching dot net. So spelled out N a W C O a C H I n G I. I forgot the wings part. New wings coaching. That's the, that's the most important part is the wings. I mean, come on. So new wings coaching spelled out.net and there's a reason for the net, for the. Cast the net to the other side.
[00:40:15] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:40:16] Speaker B: And then I'm on, you know, Facebook, Instagram, all the places. So that's. That's where you can find me.
[00:40:22] Speaker A: This is wonderful. We will have to do it again. I thank you so much for coming on. We've got a lot of topics to cover, so we'll do it again. We.
[00:40:29] Speaker B: We do.
Thank you. Thanks for having me.
[00:40:32] Speaker A: Thank you for coming.
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